I found this article about Paul Newman’s wedding vows to Joanne Woodward, while surfing on the internet on a late night, some time ago. I have kept it on my bookmarks list ever since, as it stroke a romantic chord. We all want to know the secrets for happy and fulfilling relationships and marriages. I for one don’t hold the answers, but allegedly Paul Newman and his second wife Joanne Woodward have had one of Hollywood’s most succesful and legendary marriages. They married in 1958 in Las Vegas, launching a 50-year union that endured until his death in 2008.
These are the vows, written by Wilfred A. Peterson, that Paul Newman read to his wife at their wedding ceremony, which I still find very inspirational and deeply true.
The Art of Marriage
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things…
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the crowd.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding
and a sense of humor.
It is having the capicity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best. — Wilfred A. Peterson
“Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades,
but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day,
ah, now that’s a real treat.” — Joanne Woodward
“Joanne has always given me unconditional support in all my choices and endeavors
and that includes my race car driving which she deplores.
To me, that’s love.” — Paul Newman
Paul Newman, on his lifelong fidelity to his wife,
“Why go out for hamburger when I have steak at home?!”
Opening pic credit: Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward kiss from “A New Kind of Love” (1963) also featured as the 66th Cannes Film Festival Poster. Image was found online and may be subject to copyrights.